You competed. You placed 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 10th or didn’t place at all. You lost. You did not win.
However, you know why you didn’t win. You either needed to be leaner, or it’s political, or the one who beat you is a client of one of the judges….and so on. But what you DIDN’T do is get the judges’ feedback. Why? Because you think you know what the judges want or why you lost.
I can promise you this: You will almost always be WRONG.
I have done 11 competitions. I always think I know what the problem is and why I haven’t won. I am wrong almost 100% of the time. I always get the judges’ feedback. Why? Because I want to know why I didn’t win and more importantly, I want to know what to work on in my improvement (“off”) season. I need a direction for improvement. If I don’t get their feedback, I don’t have that direction, or worse yet, I’m headed in the wrong direction entirely.
As a result of asking for the judges’ feedback and USING their feedback, I have progressively and steadily increased my scoring and placement at my competitions.
After your competition – stay after and ask for their feedback and if you can’t do that, reach out to the promoter and ask for the judges’ email addresses. Judges are happy to provide this and their feedback and input is invaluable. I have never had a judge be snarky, mean, insulting or malicious. They put a lot of thought and time into their feedback.
Why on earth would you waste such a valuable resource? And waste your time “improving” when you have no idea what to improve on?
No – you’re not smarter than the judge and you do NOT know what they’re thinking. Get their feedback. But make sure you read their feedback with an open mind, and get your ego out of the way when you do. You won't regret it!
Just Me Rambling
Middle-aged woman who can't twerk: mother, step-mom, wife, grandmother - who happens to like to lift.